Is Jumping on the bandwagon always a bad thing?

There’s been a surge of people recently taking part in the #nomakeupselfie for cancer research or breast cancer, or whatever cancer they choose to show support for.

But there’s also been a surge in people getting annoyed at it.

Now, I get that people not donating and just posting a beautiful picture of themselves sans make up is not really helping. But all of my friends, and a lot of people I’ve seen, are also donating at least three pounds to the charities of their choice.

I’m not much of an expert, but isn’t a mass donation fad a good thing in anyone’s opinion? I’ve worked at a charity shop before and, as log as it’s not anything illegal, they’re not too bothered how heir charity gets money. Either way it’s getting where it’s needed. Right?

I have just recently ‘jumped on the bandwagon’ as people are calling it and done a no make up selfie for Cancer Research UK. It’s a charity that’s close to me as my Grandma died of cancer on my second birthday. Hence, I usually find some time to give money to the charity at some point. My parents even have a direct debit set up which I hope to do when I have a steady income. Either for Cancer Research or for Babies in Intensive Care, another charity close to me as I wouldn’t be here without the amazing work at my hospital for me and my sister.

But my issue is, why are people so annoyed at this? If you really think the selfie is that self satisfying, then you can just donate and NOT do the selfie, right?

And it doesn’t really matter how people are doing it, as long as donations are getting where they’re needed in my opinion.

Every little helps, as Tesco says… Or used to say. I don’t really keep on top of catchphrases.

So please donate BEAT to 70007 or 70099 or to wherever you think needs it the most. The selfie is absolutely optional.

Thank you.

Those three words.

Disclaimer: this hasn’t actually happened to me, but it has in many tv shows I have watched so… It’s basically an experience of mine. That’s how those things work right?

Those three words. The hardest ones to say. I Love You.

Yup, the big ones.

So, the scenario is this:

There’s a couple, either in real life or on tv, and it’s a fair amount of time into the relationship. One person looks deep into the others eyes and says… That.

So, what if your response isn’t I love you right back? Do they have the right to get mad? To get insecure? To worry that you don’t want to go out with them?

The short answer is no.

The long answer is hell no.

My thoughts follow something my Dad said to me once:

‘If one person says I love you, and the other says it righ back then there are two scenarios:

1: The second person has been holding back the I love you… What reason would they have for that?

2: The second person is lying, and doesn’t love the first person yet. (I say yet because these things take time.)

Either scenario is pretty disappointing to be honest.’

So really, if you’re the type of person to get mad at someone not saying I love you at the exact time that you were ready to say it, then you just haven’t thought about it enough.

Personally, I’d rather we both said it whenever we were both ready, and not be pressured into feeling something we just don’t feel yet. (Me and my hypothetical partner. Oh, I didn’t tell you about them? Huh, must be because they’re invisible.)

 

This has been a PSA from your friendly neighbourhood spiderman… *cough* blogger. I meant blogger.